Remaining open to healing and at peace in the eye of the storm, will reveal a great way of knowing and the greatest good for all.
This year, our beautiful daughter, Hannah, will be five years old. In that time, she has brought so much joy to our family. The months leading up to Hannah’s birth began as an exercise in trust and ended in the lesson that healing can come from the most unlikely of sources, as long as we are open in the moment to receive it.
After a challenging nine months, Hannah’s due date came, but Hannah didn’t. Another day went by, and then another. My wife Sherry was at the end of her rope. The baby had dropped so low that walking, breathing and just about any other minor activity took a huge toll on her. We were desperate. You can imagine how many elixirs, herbals, potions and activities we tried to jumpstart her labor. Nothing worked. It was now nine days past due.
On the way to Sherry’s final visit to the doctor, we stopped at a red light. Sherry immediately noticed that Hannah was moving wildly, exhibiting a highly unusual amount of activity. Puzzled and curious, I happened to look to my left and there, at the top of a hill, was the enormous Los Angeles Mormon Temple.
While Sherry was in for her examination, I took an illogical leap of faith. My daughter had been highly active while we were stopped next to the Mormon temple. What could she be trying to tell us? I contacted the temple with no idea what I was going to say. I just let the moment unfold. After reaching the person in charge, I explained my situation and asked if their faith had a blessing specifically for expectant mothers. He said they did and we arranged for two young men to meet us at our house later that afternoon. A Persian man, inviting two Mormons into his house to pray for his pregnant wife is actually kind of comical, but I just allowed the moment to lead me. As long as Sherry didn’t think I’d lost my mind, I knew everything else would be fine.
Stories of dramatic healing often contain a leap of faith, a moment where an action, even though illogical, was taken because it felt imperative.
The young men who arrived were quite kind and couldn’t have been more than 18 years old. Sherry sat in a chair and they laid their hands-on top of her head and recited the blessing for expectant mothers. The whole episode lasted just 15 minutes and within 45 minutes, Sherry’s contractions started! At the hospital, Sherry pushed twice, and Hannah was born in a flash.
Healing rarely happens in a rational way. Stories of dramatic healing often contain a leap of faith, a moment where an action, even though illogical, was taken because it felt imperative. To be open to these kinds of healing messages, we must be in a state of trust. We don’t know the answer to our problem, but we know it will come. Poet, John Keats, called this state of being, negative capability; the capacity to “be in uncertainties, mysteries and doubts without any irritable reaching after fact and reason.” Essentially, it’s the ability to be okay with not being okay. When we are in that neutral place, not bogged down by fear, we’re highly intuitive and open to any message that comes. When it does, even though it might seem illogical, we can act right away, coming into the truth without the impediment of rational thinking. We trust it will work out, even if we don’t yet know how.
During my training with Carolyn Myss, I learned that intuition comes from the Latin verb, intueri, which translates as “to look inside”. Until very recently, this kind of heightened awareness was deemed New Age nonsense by hardcore scientists, but the tide is turning. My moment of pre-knowing was in the car, at the stoplight next to the Mormon temple.
From this pre-knowing, we move into knowing and then acting. For me, that was contacting the temple and requesting the prayer for Sherry.
Once we’ve taken action, we move into post-knowing, which grounds our original intuition and physical action into a specific conceptualization. In my case, I intuitively received a signal from Hannah, then took the action to contact the proper person and anchored the whole process in the concept that, whatever happened, Sherry and the baby would both be protected.
Philosopher Immanuel Kant said that cognition is only possible through the union of sensibility and understanding. When we can live in the ambiguity of certain situations without losing our emotional equilibrium, we’re highly sensitive. We move into clarity when we act on our intuitive cues. Unfortunately, most of us are stuck in our rational minds and completely cut off from our intuition. We want proof and have no patience for illogical hunches. Our left brains will believe it only after we’ve seen it. Or some are highly intuitive, but never take action on these messages or ground them in any kind of understanding. These folks tend to be somewhat flighty individuals whose very presence can feel ungrounded.
This natural flow between intuition, action and understanding was once a normal effortless part of our thought process. It works with the information that’s being offered, rather than resisting it. Unlike rational thinking, which is slow and takes a lot of energy and analysis, intuition flows freely and quickly. Last month we talked about enculturating our lives with words and people that support and uplift us. When we’re living in this way, we are able to act quickly when intuition calls and our choices won’t be judged or ridiculed by those around us.
If we learn to be then we can learn to act on whatever comes, no matter how nonsensical it might seem, and to ground ourselves in the understanding that what follows will always be for the Highest Good of All Concerned.
Dr. Habib Sadeghi is the co-founder of Be Hive of Healing, an integrative health center based in Los Angeles. He provides revolutionary healing protocols in integrative, osteopathic, anthroposophical, environmental, and family medicine, as well as clinical pharmacology. He served as an attending Physician and Clinical Facilitator at UCLA-SM Medical Center and is currently a Clinical Instructor of Family Medicine at Western University of Health Sciences. Dr. Sadeghi is a regular contributor to Goop, CNN, BBC News and TEDx. He is the author of Within: A Spiritual Awakening to Love & Weight Loss, as well as the foreword to Gwyneth Paltrow’s It’s All Good, and is the publisher of the health and well-being journal, MegaZEN.